Easy Self Care for Moms: 4 Simple Steps to Reclaim Your Energy

Learn why self-care feels impossible and discover 4 easy steps to make it part of your routine without adding to the overwhelm.

Ever feel like self-care is just one more thing to do? Or like there’s never enough time for some “me time”? Trust me, I’ve been there too. I was completely burnt out and overwhelmed, and self-care? Well, it felt like just another incomplete task weighing me down.

But then, something clicked for me—and it wasn’t about finding more time. It was about making one small shift that changed everything.

Hi, I’m Katie! I’m a certified life coach and a mom of two, and I help other overwhelmed moms who are trying to juggle careers, family, and everything in between. I specialize in helping moms create work life balance by setting boundaries, reducing overwhelm, and prioritizing self-care—without feeling guilty. Through my coaching and YouTube channel, I offer real-life strategies that fit into your busy life.

Why We Struggle with Self-Care (Hint: It’s Not About Time)

You know the saying, “You can’t pour from an empty cup,” right? Every self-help book, podcast, and Instagram post will tell you that the secret to more energy and feeling like yourself again is self-care. But let’s be real for a second—when you’re a busy mom trying to juggle work, kids, and the daily chaos, spa days and long yoga classes aren’t exactly easy to fit in.

So, what gives? Why don’t we take the time for ourselves when we know we need it?

For me, the answer wasn’t just being busy. It was something deeper. I felt validated by my exhaustion. If I was completely worn out by the end of the day, it meant I had done enough. I was enough. But the truth is, that mindset was holding me back from real balance.

The Wake-Up Call: Learning from My Daughter

One day, when my daughter was about two, I was sick, and she insisted on spoon-feeding me soup. Of course, most of it ended up on me, but it was sweet. And as I sat there, watching her, it hit me—kids are always watching and mimicking what we do.

And then I had this realization: if I wasn’t taking care of myself, what was I teaching her?

Yes, I want her to be kind and take care of others, but I also want her to know how to take care of herself. And if I wasn’t showing her that, who would? That moment changed everything for me.

4 Simple Steps to Make Self-Care Part of Your Life (Even When You’re Exhausted)

Step 1: Define What Self-Care Means to YOU

Here’s the thing—self-care looks different for everyone. It’s not just about spa days or bubble baths (unless that’s your thing). Self-care is anything that gives you energy or helps reduce stress.

Ask yourself: What feels like self-care to me? And be honest. If cleaning the kitchen or organizing a closet gives you a sense of control and calm, then guess what? That’s self-care. Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for it.

Step 2: Start Small, Stay Consistent

You don’t need hours for self-care to make an impact. In fact, tiny moments add up. It’s kind of like meditation—two minutes a day is better than an hour once a month. Find little things that make you feel good and do them regularly. This is how eventually self care becomes a habit.

For me, it’s as simple as lighting a candle while I get ready for bed. It’s such a small thing, but it gives me a moment of peace and helps me unwind after a long day. Find your version of that, something you can do even on the hardest days.

Step 3: Create a System (Because Asking for Help Is Exhausting)

You’ve probably heard, “Just ask for help!” more times than you can count. But let’s be real—it’s exhausting to keep asking. That’s why creating a system is a game changer. When I say system I mean a recurring event or task that you don’t have to ask for help every single time. Talk to your partner or a supportive family member about setting up something regular—like a standing playdate for the kids so you get a break without constantly asking.

Trust me, a little system goes a long way in keeping your sanity.

Step 4: Connect Self-Care to Your Values

The real secret to making self care stick? Connect it to what really matters to you. For me, it was realizing I needed to show my daughter what self-care looks like, so she wouldn’t grow up feeling like she always had to be exhausted to prove her worth.

Or maybe for you, it’s about being kinder or more present with your family. When you link self-care to something you deeply care about, it stops feeling optional and starts feeling necessary.

What Life Looks Like with Regular Self-Care

Since making self care a regular part of my life, I have more energy, more patience, and more focus. My husband and I even argue less about household tasks now that we’ve created a system that works for us. It’s those small changes that have made a huge difference.

And the best part? I know my daughter is watching. She’s learning that it’s okay to slow down and take care of herself—lessons I hope will stick with her as she grows up.

Want Real-Life Self-Care Tips That Actually Work?

I get it—finding time for self care as a busy mom can feel impossible. That’s why I created the Katie’s Coaching Corner YouTube channel—to give you easy, practical tips and real stories to help you finally make self-care happen. Whether it's finding more energy, setting boundaries, or creating balance that sticks, I’ve got you covered.

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Let’s turn self-care from an afterthought into a routine—and create the balanced, energized life you deserve.

Want to Stay Connected?

I love helping busy moms find balance and reclaim their energy, and I’d love to connect with you too! If you found these tips helpful, you can find even more resources on my website, where I share regular blog posts packed with advice for busy moms trying to balance it all.

You can also follow me on Instagram (TheBalancedMomCoach) for more tips and behind-the-scenes moments, or join my Facebook group (Aspiring Supermoms) to connect with other moms on a similar journey. We’re all about supporting each other with practical tips, real talk, and encouragement.

Let’s stay connected—I’d love to see you there!

Categories: : Guest Blog, postpartum support, Self-Care